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Come to the “Fall Hayride” and “Harvest Potluck Meatloaf Dinner” with the Theme of Heritage/Reformation Sunday, Oct 26th

You’re invited to the Harvest Potluck Meatloaf Dinner on Sunday, October 26th, with a “Fall Hayride” (Tractor Wagon Ride) at 4:30 pm and dinner to follow at 5:30 pm. Add this fun (and tasty!) event on your calendars!

The theme this year is Church Heritage/Reformation Sunday. We will have a Church Heritage “Show and Tell” and a Heritage Trivia Quiz on topics from Church History/Reformation Day/Halloween by the Christian Education Committee. What do you have relating to our church’s heritage that you can bring in for a “Show and Tell” — an old photo or object or a “story”? Search your home and share briefly or see what others bring in!

Meatloaf and roasted potatoes, apple crisp and vanilla ice cream will be provided for everyone along with beverages. Please bring a side dish or salad to share!

Along with the “Fall Hayride”, there will be pumpkin decorating and activities for the children. And, there will be a chance to win a Fall Goodie Basket by Ellen Wilford as a door prize. Remember to fill out the slip to put in the basket! Let’s celebrate the harvest!

Here’s What’s Happening this Sunday ...

The Nineteenth Sunday After Pentecost — October 19th

This Sunday, October 19th, is the Nineteenth Sunday After Pentecost. Worship begins at 10:30 am and following theChildren’s Message our children and youth will go to The Parlors for Sunday School and the Sunday School Choir. All are invited to enjoy Coffee and Fellowship after the service in the Parlors. Remember to bring in your special Peacemaking & Global Witness Offering if you were not able last Sunday!

The passages from the lectionary this week include from the Older Testament Exodus 33:12-23, where Moses watches from the cleft of a rock as God’s glory passes by; and, the Epistle reading is from 1 Thessalonians 1:1-10, where Paul writes to the Thessalonians: We give thanks and pray for you; and, the Gospel reading from the lectionary is Matthew 22:15-22, where the Pharisees test Jesus with a question about paying taxes. Pastor Peter’s sermon will be “God and Taxes.”

Walk the “CROP Walk” in Riverhead this Year, Sun, Oct 19th

While we do not have a local CROP Walk this year, you are invited to walk against hunger in the Riverhead CROP Walk, which will be Sunday, October 19th, with registration taking place at 1:30 pm and the walk begins at 2:00 pm at the United Methodist Church on Main Street, Riverhead. The walk is a 4-mile walk, with water stations along the way. If you would like to walk, contact: or 631-722-4241 or Riverhead UMC at 631-727-2327.

Feature Story of the Week ...

Stressed Out: How Making Space for God Can Reduce Stress *

by Joanie Friend

“And can any of you by worrying add a single hour to your span of life?” — Luke 12:25

Sitting across from Carol (whose name has been changed for privacy), I notice her shift nervously in her chair. As the faith community nurse at Bradley Hills Presbyterian Church in Bethesda, Maryland, I already know some of her story.

A middle-aged woman, she should be in the prime of her life. Instead, she seems tired and beaten down. Her father, who is 89, is in the beginning stages of dementia. Her mother, who died recently, had been chronically ill. A registered nurse, Carol has felt an acute need to help care for them both. To make matters worse, her husband has a serious heart condition, and she’s caring also for her young adult children, one of whom is engaged to be married. All the time she’s spent caring for multiple generations of family has led to missed workdays and lost jobs, leaving Carol and her family with lots of debt and little money.

I listen as Carol, shaking, recounts source after source of stress. She is one of many who now comprise the “sandwich generation” — working adults caring simultaneously for children (many of whom are young adults returning home after college) and parents or even grandparents. As life expectancy extends and adult children can’t find adequate work, the sandwich generation is growing, bringing with it unprecedented stress.

Much has changed over the last 10 - 20 years. Stress levels are up across the board. Teenagers and their parents are stressed about being admitted to the “right” college. And college graduates, whose degree used to be a reliable ticket to a good job, now have trouble finding adequate employment, and many carry heavy student-loan and credit-card debt. Some must move back home again — the “boomerang generation.” Their parents, facing heavy responsibilities, feel unable to retire. The 60-hour workweek has become common, and yet all are expected to participate in household chores and child care. Technology has become a blessing and a curse, as people can reach us anywhere and often expect a quick answer. Children and adults alike spend much less unstructured time outdoors than recent generations.

Even the church is stressed as it faces news of declining attendance.

Chronically stressed

Stress is actually a normal part of life. It can even serve a useful purpose as a motivational tool. However, chronic stress can have a long-term effect on health and happiness.

In March and April of 2014, the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, in partnership with the Harvard School of Public Health and National Public Radio, conducted a survey and published the results as “The Burden of Stress in America.” More than 2,500 people described the role of stress in their lives: personal experiences of it, causes and effects, and how they managed stress levels.

The American Psychological Association’s 2010 Stress in America survey reported that money and work are the two main causes of stress. However, among respondents in the Robert Wood Johnson study, health-related problems, including illness, disease, and a death in the family, accounted for 43 percent of the reported sources of stress. Further, 54 percent reported too many responsibilities overall, and 53 percent problems with finances and work.

Those reporting “a great deal of stress” blamed juggling family schedules, listening to the news, managing household chores, and running errands. They also said the stress affected their family and social life and health.

Chronic stress can lead to a number of serious health conditions, including depression, heart disease and heart attacks, high blood pressure, gastrointestinal problems, weight gain or loss, changes in sex drive, infertility, skin problems, and flare-ups of asthma or arthritis.

What we can do about it

In response, some Presbyterian congregations are looking for ways to relieve stress and provide support. Faith community nurses are providing safe spaces for counsel, education, and advocacy. Congregations are offering yoga, exercise, stress-management, and relaxation classes as well as quiet prayer time. Members have access to free or low-cost pamphlets about stress, such as materials from the Mental Health Association or CareNotes by Abbey Press. Last, but certainly not least, pastors are offering sermons on the topic of Sabbath rest.

The Presbyterian Health Network and other organizations are offering both online and in-person preparation classes for people who feel called to this ministry. Congregations can encourage health professionals and interested parties to form a health ministry team and support the training of at least one person.

These ministries help people to identify causes of stress and to analyze their daily activities and thoughts before turning to strategies for management. If someone feels overwhelmed by too many responsibilities, for instance, it may be helpful to prioritize tasks, communicate needs to a supervisor or helpmate, and improve time-management skills.

Some people have developed a negative pattern of thinking over the years. The anticipation of a stressful day or event may be worse than the tasks involved. Thinking, “This will be a hard day, but I’ve done it before successfully” is more helpful than thinking, “How in the world am I ever going to get through this day?” Attempting to develop a more positive attitude can go a long way toward reducing stress. Nevertheless, expectations are at times too great, and situations may be inherently stressful. Talking with a confidant may help someone under stress to sort through possible solutions and communicate needs more productively. That confidant might be a pastor, a friend, a mental health professional, or a peer in a support group.

It is of utmost importance to be involved in enjoyable and renewing activities and to take time for yourself. Taking a mental health day or even just a few moments may be salvation for some. Some folks find relief through relaxation exercises such as 15 minutes of progressive muscle relaxation or visualization. If it is affordable, or if a willing partner is available, massage is a great stress reliever. Exercise such as walking, biking, and swimming is also great.

Finally, it’s important that our churches address “compassion fatigue” and the belief that we should give without any concern for our own health and well-being. While we often look at God’s activity in the world, we need to examine the importance of God’s inactivity as well. When we think about the creation story, we recall how God acted to create the world. But note that God rested on the seventh day. We cherish and protect God’s investment by caring for ourselves.

And that’s exactly what I ended up telling Carol. I referred her to a pastoral counselor who offered her a much-reduced rate because she’s a congregation member and had hit hard financial times. Then, one day, we had an intervention of sorts with the family. We started with prayer. We ended with prayer. And by convincing Carol’s father to let her mother get the help she needed, we were able to set Carol also on a path toward peace. It will be a long road, and the struggles will remain. But she won’t be alone.

And not having to shoulder the stress alone can make all the difference.


To find more resources and worship aids on this subject, download the Presbyterian Health Network’s 2013 “Trusting in God Reduces Stress in Our Lives” resource packet: (select “PHEWA networks” and then the PHN link). You may also contact members of the PHN leadership team found on the site.

* Joanie Friend is a registered nurse and a faith community nurse serving Bradley Hills Presbyterian Church in Bethesda, Maryland. Article is from the October 2014 issue of Presbyterians Today.

BPC News to Know ...

Two Ways You Can Support the Bridgehampton Community Food Pantry Now

You can help those who are hungry in our community through the Bridgehampton Community Food Pantry in two ways:

First, you can bring in food donations! Pick a Sunday each month to bring food items to worship (or make it your weekly Sunday discipline!) for the Pantry. Place items in the basket in the Narthex. Items regularly needed include:

  • Pasta products other than spaghetti Chef Boyardee pasta & sauce products
  • Saltines & crackers
  • Evaporated milk
  • Any soups other than Tomato and Chicken Noodle.
  • Beef Broth
  • Canned fruits
  • Collard greens
  • Canned spinach
  • Salad dressing
  • Refried beans

Second, you can be a volunteer! BPC is responsible for staffing the Bridgehampton Community Food Pantry every "Third Wednesday" of each month from 11:00 am to 1:00 pm. If you would like to serve others in this way -- distributing food and/or stocking the shelves -- leave your name and email with the Church Office (631-537-0863); or, contact Arnold Coslick (631-537-0036) or Peggy Griffin (631-537-0954).

The food pantry is located in the basement of St. Ann’s Episcopal Church: PO Box 961, 2463 Montauk Highway (at Hull Lane), Bridgehampton, NY 11932 and is open every Wednesday.

Chat and Craft Group Meets Tuesdays, 10:00 - 11:30 am

The “Chat and Craft” Group meets Tuesdays to chat and/or craft from 10:00 - 11:30 am in The Parlors. Any one who can chat and/or craft is welcome to this group that encourages social relationships outside of the regular Sunday worship and fellowship hours. All are welcome!

“Fitness for Mom, Fun for Baby” Exercise, Friendship and Fun Classes to Begin in Parlors

A new group stressing “Fitness for Mom, Fun for Baby” will be meeting in The Parlors Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays from 10:00 — 11:00 am. FIT4MOM is the country's largest fitness program for moms offering pre- and post-natal fitness classes for every stage of motherhood. Fit4Mom is designed for every mom to get in shape with your baby and meet other moms! Classes offer an innovative stroller workout that combines power walking and jogging and intervals of body toning using the stroller, the environment, and exercise tubing. And best is that you get to bring your littles along with you for the ride!

Whether you are a new mom (or DAD), or even if your kiddos have gone off to school, this program is for all stages of motherhood and life! For more information on FIT4MOM of the Hamptons, contact Brooke (Wiggins) Cracco at 516-480-4341 or email: or see the webpage at

Conference on Children’s Grief and Loss to be Held Thurs, Oct 23rd

The Good Grief Family Bereavement Center presents “A look at Children’s Grief and Trauma in Today’s Society” on Thursday, October 23rd from 9:00 am to 4:00 pm at Martha Clara Vineyards in Riverhead. Author, educator and counselor Linda Goldman, with a background in children and death, dying and bereavement, will offer the Keynote and a speakers panel will be present. To learn more and to register, call the East End Hospice Development Office at 631-288-7080 or email A $75.00 fee includes breakfast, lunch, beverages and the Conference. See poster in the Narthex.

“Get Their Name — Grow Your Church by Building Relationships” Event Planned, Sat, Oct 25th

The PRC — Practical Resources for Churches — is sponsoring “Get Their Name — Grow Your Church by Building Relationships” full day event to be led by Rev. Bob Farr, who wrote the book by the same name. This will take place at Woodbury United Methodist Church, 557 Woodbury Rd, Woodbury, NY. Bob Farr is the Director of the Center for Congregational Excellence in Missouri. Think of the impact two BPC members attending this event might have in building relationships in our congregation and attracting new folks. Registration and breakfast begin at 9:00 am. Scholarships are available to cover the $45 registration fee that includes breakfast and lunch. For more info, contact Peter or the PRI at

Beyond the Hanging of the Greens: Christmas Workshop, Sat, Nov 1st

For churches, the “Hanging of the Greens” means it is the Christmas season, but why stop there. Churches have brought Praise music, bands and PowerPoint into their sanctuaries, yet few have really begun to explore the sensory — especially visual — possibilities that they could employ. How can we design a display for Christmas in a way that transforms our worship into a deeper spiritual experience? Explore with us using imagery at Christmas to enhance your congregation’s worship experience. Participants will complete a visual image to share at their church. Sponsored by the PRC — Practical Resources for Churches on Saturday, November 1st, from 10:00 am to noon, with a materials fee of $10.00. The PRC is located at 89 Hallock Landing Road in Rocky Point and will be led by Margaret Berglund. Register at or call 631-821-2255.

“Slowing Down: Preparing Our Hearts for Advent”, Sat, Nov 8th

Join the PRC — Practical Resources for Churches for a morning of preparations for Advent where we’ll explore the true meaning of the season. “Slowing Down: Preparing Our Hearts for Advent” will take place Saturday, November 8th, from 9:30 am — 12:30 pm. Through spiritual practices and other activities we’ll learn how to slow down, listen to God’s quiet voice, and prepare our hearts for the coming of Christ. We’ll explore ways to distance ourselves from the madness and materialism that is taking over the season. There will be suggestions for simple, meaningful gifts to make as well as ideas for items to purchase from fair trade and charitable organizations. Some alternative items will be available for purchase. This event will take place at the PRC — satellite location at the Bayport United Methodist Church, 482 Middle Road, Bayport and will be led by Debbie Kolacki and the PRC Staff. Register at or call 631-821-2255.

We’re Baking Thanksgiving Pies! Signup for Homemade Apple and Pumpkin Pies, Wed, Nov 19th

The Christian Education Committee and Sunday School is baking Thanksgiving Pies! You have the choice of Apple and Pumpkin pies.

An order form will be in the October Banner Newsletter as well as on the table in the Narthex. Completed forms with attached checks can be placed in the “Pie Box” in the Narthex by Wednesday, November 19th. This year pies will cost $18.00 per pie. All proceeds from the sale will benefit “The Giving Tree” at Christmas — a project that helps provide Christmas gifts for families in the Bridgehampton School without resources to give gifts to their children. Pies will be baked on Saturday, November 22nd and can be picked up on Sunday, November 23rd. Anyone interested in helping bake pies, please see Kathy Lowe or called 537-3521.

With the busy weeks of Christmas just past Thanksgiving Day, why not order a few extra to freeze and warm up for Christmas!

Help Make Sandwich Lunches for Maureen’s Haven’s Homeless, Sat, Nov 22nd!

The Mission Committee invites you to help them make sandwiches and other items for some 30 lunches. We will be lunch-making on three Saturdays this year at 10:00 am in The Parlors. The dates are Saturdays November 22, December 13, January 25, and February 14. Help out with one or more opportunities to help others! Ingredients are provided for the most part; however, contact Deb McEneaney if you would like to donate an item or a donation toward the cost of the mission project: (917) 741-6257.

Sunday School Choir to Sing Harvest Sunday, Nov 23rd

Our Sunday School Choir will sing on Harvest Sunday, November 23rd as we offer thanksgiving to God for the harvest. They will sing, “Do You Ever Wonder?” by Harriet Ilse Ziegenhais. Children should arrive by 10:15 am that Sunday, for “dress rehearsal”!

Cast Call for the Annual Christmas Pageant! Rehearsals begin on Sun, Dec 7th

Calling all angels, sheep, shepherds, magi, Marys and Josephs for our Annual Christmas Pageant to be held Wednesday, December 24th, at 5:00 pm. It’s not too early to start thinking about this year’s special presentation.

Rehearsals will be December 7, 14 and 21 at 11:45 am after worship and on December 24 at 3:30 pm (“dress rehearsal” before the pageant). All ages 3 — adult are invited to participate. Ask all your family and friends to take a part in this service. See Kathy Lowe to express interest and for more information. It is important to be present at the rehearsals to be included in the presentation Christmas Eve.

BPC Ways You Can Volunteer ...

Sign-up to Serve for Coffee Fellowship!
Serving from 11:30 am till Noon

Members of the congregation are invited to volunteer to serve during the coffee fellowship Hour the first Sunday of each month.

  • It works well to have 2 to 4 people (or two families) to provide and serve together.
  • Volunteers provide treats, make coffee, tea and juice, serve and clean up.
  • Suggested 3-4 kinds of treats (for example: fruit, cookies, bars, cupcakes, doughnut-holes, etc. (homemade or store-bought).
  • Our church provides coffee, napkins and cups; fresh milk is needed.
  • Instructions for brewing coffee are on the kitchen cupboard (Often, the Sexton sets up the coffee ahead of time: check!)
  • If interested, contact Donna Halsey or Elizabeth Barton; or call the Church Office: 631-537-0863.

Worship Liturgists and Greeter/Ushers Needed

The fall is a good time to try out something new or bring back a skill from the past! Worship and Music Committee invites you to be a liturgist reading the Scripture and leading prayers during a Sunday worship service and/or to serve as a greeter/usher welcoming congregants as they enter the worship space, offering a bulletin, and collecting the offering. We love to see new faces at the lectern and welcoming us to worship!

344th Music Ministry Season Invites Your Participation
Join the Choir — Voice or Bells or Both!

Our music ministry gets back into full ‘swing’ as our bell and vocal choirs start up for the fall season. Vocal choir practices will be held Thursdays at 7:00 pm. Handbell practices resume at 9:00 am Sunday morning. We are in need of more bell ringers to cover more notes and bells in this unique music. If you can’t carry a tune but can count to four, we have a bell or two for you! New voices are always welcomed in the singing choir. Our repertoire is varied. In addition to our classical and Christmas music, we have lots of things to prepare for this year. Why not talk to Tom and share your gift to the glory of God!

Recent News ...

Click on the picture above to see the 2014 Peace & Global Witness Offering Video, entitled: Peace in the Streets of Detroit.

Support the Peacemaking and Global Witness Special Offering this Sunday!

Blessed are the Peacemakers!

What you’ve known as the Peacemaking Offering has been transformed into the Peace & Global Witness Offering. Formerly called the Peacemaking Offering, the new name reflects the greater global reach, more significant impact, and ability to bring peace to people through Christ. The past four weeks bulletin inserts have been handed out at worship with your worship bulletin describing various ways in which this special offering serves those in need of peace in their lives and communities.

The Peace & Global Witness Offering is received during the Season of Peace, which ends on World Communion Sunday. However, you can help sustain the important PC(USA) ministries and programs that are supported by this important Offering by making an online gift at any time throughout the year.

How is my Gift Used?

A gift to the Peace & Global Witness Offering enables the church to promote the Peace of Christ by addressing systems of injustice across the world. Individual congregations are encouraged to utilize up to 25% of this Offering to sustain their local peacemaking ministries. An envelope will be in the pews for the first couple of weeks of October as we offer our support as peacemakers in a broken world. Give generously!

Bring a Bag of Gently Used Clothing to Worship this Sunday!

Bridgehampton Presbyterian Church is again helping to care for those who are needy and suffering on Long Island by collecting gently used clothing. BPC is partnering with the Long Island Council of Churches (LICC) and the Society of St. Vincent de Paul (SVDPLI) here on Long Island to collect clothing to assist those in need from the tips of the Forks to the Brooklyn and Queens borders. You will find the green Clothing Bin behind The Parlors. Pull up on the lawn to the bin and place your donations in the convenient slot. Donate and know you are making a difference for Long Islanders in need!

Share Pastoral Care Needs with the Church Office

If you are aware of any pastoral concerns please call the church office so that we may notify the pastor and the deacons contact: 631-537-0863. You can reach the Church Office by email: or Pastor Peter directly:

Children Enjoy Sunday School and Choir Following Children’s Message

Each week we offer three classes for Sunday School: Nursery: (Under Age Four); Younger Children (Age 4 - Grade 2); and, Older Children (Grade 3 - Grade 6). See Kathy Lowe if you would like to offer your time as a substitute teacher or assistant teacher. The Sunday School Children’s Choir also rehearses each Sunday during Sunday School. See Tom White if you would like to participate with the choirs in the music program.

Six Ways to Stay Connected...

In the age of the Internet, BPC has six new ways for you to connect and keep current with your church family:

  • Stay up to date with church activities, or listen to live and archived services, on the BPC Mobile App. Click or scan the code at right.
  • Receive the weekly E-pistle! The E-pistle is a mid-week email that goes out to the congregation and friends with all the news and announcements. Make sure the Church Office has your email or write it down and place it in the offering plate!
  • Become a FaceBook friend! To become a Friend, go to and sign in, go to “Bridgehampton Presbyterian Church,” click on the word “Like,” and you are a “Friend.” Tell your friends!
  • Enjoy “live” streaming at on days when you can’t make it to worship. Later on in the week you’ll also be able to hear archived highlights.
  • Check out the church website:
  • Receive the monthly Banner newsletter! While some continue to receive the paper version of the monthly Banner, it is also available early to those who sign-up for the email notice that a new month has been posted. Make sure the Church Office has your email address!

Whenever you see the “Give Now” button on our church Website or E-pistle, simply “click” on it and complete the easy and safe form to make your donation.

Your Generosity Helps Us Serve: Use BPC’s New Online Giving Option!

For the first time BPC members and friends can now give to the church online — just as you do for many charities — using a debit or credit card or electronic funds transfer to support our congregation’s ministries!

All you have to do is click on the “Give Now” button on our church website: You will be redirected to the Presbyterian Mission Exchange and our Bridgehampton Presbyterian Church“Donate” page. A secure form is easily completed and you can designate and make your donation all in a matter of minutes. You can make a one-time gift or set up a recurring donation as your weekly offering or stewardship pledge. It is the generosity of members and friends like you that allows us to do what we do.

By clicking “Give Now” and filling out the form, we realize that you are trusting us with your money. We want you to know that every attempt has been made to make this process simple, easy and safe. The information you provide is encrypted, secure and confidential. We appreciate your confidence in our ministry and value your contribution through our partnership with Presbyterian Mission Exchange (a service of the Presbyterian Foundation).

In order for you to make your online donation, simply “click” on the icon and complete the form, indicating your choice of the funds available:

  • Capital Improvement Fund
  • Mission Fund
  • General Fund
  • Music Fund

If you wish to designate a donation more specifically, check “General Fund” and indicate the special work you wish to support in the “Note” area near the bottom of the form. Your transaction will appear on your statement as BB - Presbyterian Foundation. You will receive an email acknowledgement and expression of gratitude. Your full donation is tax deductible to the fullest extent permitted by law.

Go ahead! Give it a try! Why not become familiar with how it works by donating $10.00 to the Capital Improvement Fund. It’s that easy!

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